Trusting Instead of Judging…

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. ~ Helen Keller

One of the most difficult things in our lives is not judging a moment as good or bad. It simply is a moment in a stream of moments. While it may be difficult, challenging or very easy — we have no idea of its effect on our lives, perhaps for months or years. Thus the most horrible seeming experience we could go through, might also be the moment that starts a series of events that completely changes our lives in the absolute best manner possible.

And when we get caught up in judging our moments, then we leave an aspect of ourself — and our energy — in the judged moment — and thus in the past. The judging of a situation as bad keeps us from seeing the overall benefit a challenging experience may have played in our lives. And suddenly we have lack of congruence and a disconnect within our interior selves. Part of us is stuck in the past judging the experience; part of us is trying to move forward into the future; part of us is trying to be in the present moment wondering why we keep going back to this, that and the other worry; and part of us may be keeping a life tally of good and bad to see if we are getting our fair share of the good stuff — as we define good stuff.

And if we look at where our judging is really coming from, I tend to think it is emerging from our fears and egos, which affect our emotions and thus our world views– and suddenly the spiraling loop begins. We’re judging, rating and unhappy, instead of confident and trusting that this moment is simply one small part of a process to get us to where we want to be. And that even though it may seem like we are coming apart; we, in reality, are thriving, flourishing and growing.

When we judge a moment, situation, experience, challenge, etc. we tend to judge it from a linear perspective — we define the perfect, shortest distance to being where we want to be and then we decide that anything other than our definition is not “right” or optimal. We forget that we are part of a mosaic — a mosaic called humanity — and that every experience we have does not just effect or serve ourselves, but also effects and serves the whole of humanity. We can define humanity as the six billion people who inhabit the planet or simply the small group of friends, family and acquaintances that inhabit our lives at any given point.

If we view the “bad” experience as an aspect of a mosaic, then we see we are one piece and in order to fit us in another part of the cosmic mosaic, then Life has to reconfigure us to fit another part and it also has to reconfigure other parts of the mosaic to fit us. Thus, the challenging situation is not going to be experienced in a linear manner — it can’t be, because we are now working on the greater whole’s timetable, not our own. So it may seem to take more time than we consider reasonable.

It’s very much like reworking a garden and moving plants. The plant you dig up and put to the side may not like being out of the earth or without water for as long as it takes to rearrange and dig up the part of the garden where the gardener will eventually be placing the plant. Even though this is the part of the garden that the plants will thrive in.

So at any given point in time, what we are cosntantly being asked by Life is “simply trust.” Choose the moment — whatever moment is being presented to you — over your fears and your ego. Instead of getting caught up in the inner dialog of your mind, get caught up int eh sunrise or the sunset or simply the wind. By choosing the moment, you choose confidence — in yourself and in the cosmos — over your own fears and perceived limitations.

Helen Keller expresses it very well in her work Optimism “I am never discouraged by absence of good. I never can be argued into hopelessness. Doubt and mistrust are the mere panic of timid imagination, which the steadfast heart will conquer, and the large mind transcend.”